Category Archives: Health & Wellness

Building Self-Esteem in Children

Building Self-Esteem in Children

Written by: Kayla Polk

“I’ll never make the basketball team.”
“I am not smart enough to compete in the spelling bee.”
“I never do anything right.”

Do any of these phrases sound familiar? If so, this might be a sign your child is struggling with low self-esteem. Self-esteem is how a person thinks about themselves, and it impacts a variety of factors in children and adolescents, including physical health, coping strategies, interactions with peers, mental health and education. We all deal with low self-esteem at different times in our lives, and as parents, you’ll likely see your child struggle with this too. Below are a few ways to help your child build their self-esteem.

Tips for Building Self-Esteem
1. Provide Support. Research shows that parental support affects self-esteem, especially for girls. Support can include providing more praise than criticism, providing opportunities for children to communicate openly and honestly with you, spending quality time with your child and displaying physical affection. Encourage your child’s interests and help them find their talents.

2. Encourage physical activity.  Research shows positive, short-term effects of physical activity on self-esteem in children.Along with the other important benefits of physical activity, encouraging your child to be physically active may also help to boost their self-esteem. Find a fun activity the whole family can participate in to encourage your child’s involvement in physical activity while also spending time together as a family. Children who see their parents or siblings participate in and enjoy physical activities are more likely to participate themselves. Encourage taking part in sports if your child seems interested, or provide active toys for your child to play with, such as jump ropes, balls or bicycles.

3. Praise a child’s efforts, not just the successes. We have all been there: we didn’t come in first place, we didn’t get the job we tried so hard to get, we didn’t get the A+ grade we hoped for, and so forth. Our efforts are just as important as the ending result, and self-esteem is not just about succeeding all the time. Mistakes can help children learn and grow. Talk openly with your child about their mistakes and how they can learn from them for the future. Praise a child’s efforts, progress and attitude as they’re trying to complete a task. For example, “I’m proud of you for working so hard on this spelling homework!”

4. Create actionable goals. You can create goals for your child to try and achieve in various ways. These goals can be related to school, homework, activities outside of school or chores at home, for example. Once you create a goal with your child, you can talk about what skills or steps need to be taken to reach that end goal. Maybe your child wants to score a goal during their upcoming soccer season. Create a plan with your child on how that goal can be achieved. Remember to celebrate your child’s efforts toward the goal as well as the success! Another idea is to create a reward chart with various chores and tasks, which will allow your child to visibly see what goals they can reach and when they accomplish them. This can also help your child to feel more involved in the family and allow them to feel proud for being able to contribute!

5. Teach by example. Children naturally imitate what they observe. Try to model strong self-esteem but also allow your child to see you deal with struggles and conflicts, as this is completely normal throughout life. Don’t pretend to be perfect, but tackle your struggles with positivity and perseverance. Allow your child to see that you believe in yourself.

Here are a few activities you can do with your child to help strengthen their self-esteem. These activities require only a few materials, such as pens, markers and paper.

A Guide to Healthy Screen Time for Kids

A Guide to Healthy Screen Time for Kids

Written by: Hannah de Vries

Getting through the long, dark winter can be a challenge. Kids have fewer chances to play outside because of colder temperatures and less daylight. This is also cold and flu season, and sick days out of school may mean more hours in front of a screen.

What is screen time?
Screen time refers to the time spent watching TV or using a device such as a computer, tablet, video game console or smartphone. There are benefits and risks of screen time, so it is important to make sure that kids don’t spend too much time in front of a screen. The American Academy of Pediatrics gives the following suggestions:

  • Children under 18 months should avoid the use of screen media other than video-chatting.
  • Children 18-24 months can watch high-quality programs, but an adult should watch or play with them to help them understand what they are seeing.
  • Children aged 2-5 should limit screen time to one hour per day of high-quality programs that interest the children and support learning with adults watching or playing with them. 
  • Children aged 6 and older should have regular limits on the time spent using media and the types of media used.

Benefits of Screen Time
Screen time and media can be good for children for many reasons. Media can help children learn new and important skills. For example, children can learn about counting and letter names through shows like Sesame Street. Activities like computer games with friends can give children opportunities to learn social skills like turn-taking and cooperation. Creating a presentation for school could help your child learn PowerPoint or other video-editing skills.

Media can also connect children to the world around them. By exposing children to new ideas and information, and raising awareness of current events and issues, children can learn about cultures different from their own. And through the use of social media, families and friends who live far apart can now connect with each other through technology.

Risks of Screen Time
While there are benefits to screen time, there are also risks to consider. Using a screen for long periods of time can lead to inactivity and contribute to obesity. Too much screen time can also cause physical ailments like sore, irritated or dry eyes; headaches and fatigue; and discomfort in the neck and spine.

Too much screen time can also have a negative effect on the development of language and social skills. Screen time can affect children’s ability to keep eye contact, read body language and have conversations. Children need real-life interactions to develop these skills. Screen time at night can also disrupt sleep, which can in turn negatively impact school performance.

Finally, some media sources can also pose safety risks. Children can come across dangerous content or people through chat rooms, online games and social networking. Therefore, it is a good idea to monitor the content children can access on the internet.

Tips for Reducing Screen Time
Understanding the pros and cons of screen time empowers parents and caregivers to make informed choices. Here are a few steps you can take to provide a healthy balance of screen time for your family:

  • Create a family media plan. Technology is a central part of families daily lives, and a family media plan can offer a realistic way to manage media and devices at home.
  • Set aside media-free times, such as during dinner, and media-free unplugged rooms in the home, such as bedrooms.
  • Turn off screens one hour before bedtime.
  • Be a good role model by turning off your own screens.
  • Find alternate activities to do during the times when your children most often use screens. Reading, art or music projects, playing with friends or family game time are all good options.
  • Find ways to get your child moving. Take part in a team or club sport, dance class or family activities that include walking (like going to a museum or the zoo).

The Power of Play

The Power of Play

Written by: Jessica Anderson

As the new year begins, many parents make resolutions, set new priorities and shift routines. But how many of these changes in daily living include increasing children’s imaginative play?

Imaginative play, or pretend play, happens when a child uses his or her imagination to act out a situation based on their experiences and interests, and often includes props.During this type of play, children act out events in a scenario (e.g., restaurant, safari, pirate ship) but there are no set rules or goals. The focus is on creativity.

Research shows there are many important reasons for children to engage in pretend play. Here are a few reasons to prioritize play this year:

1.Play Gets Kids (and Adults) Moving
Child-directed play promotes movement. During play, children constantly move, run, crawl, climb and jump. In a day and age where it is so easy to live an inactive life, researchers suggest that taking time to play can encourage healthy activity and get everyone in the house moving!

2.Play Connects Children and Caregivers
Research shows that play is important for building emotional connections between children and parents, allowing them to build healthy relationships that are a necessary part of child development. These positive connections built through play help both children and parents manage stress well. The moments that caregivers and children spend together stampeding through the living room on horses or playing restaurant servers can make all the difference in building strong and safe bonds.

3.Play Builds Confidence
Play is a safe way for children to practice being adults. Children constantly imagine they have new roles and often pretend they are adults. In the world of pretend play, children can drive the local bus, give their stuffed animal a wellness checkup, parent their baby doll or talk on the phone to a good friend. This kind of play is important for children to take on new roles, practice resiliency and master new skills, routines and ideas. Play gives children a safe place to practice life and build confidence.

4.Play Boosts Social-Emotional Skills
Unstructured play with peers is important for boosting children’s social skills. For example, when two children pretend they are in a bakery, one child might be the cake decorator and the other the customer or the baker’s assistant. Maybe they will decide to switch roles, or in a change of events, they will host a cake party. Even in a simple game, children practice taking turns, figure out what happens next, make decisions and solve problems. Research shows that these skills are important for a child’s development and lead to strong social skills as adults.

5.Play Gets Kids Talking
Research shows that creative play can help children to learn new words in a new setting. For example, when children pretend they are dinosaurs, a unique scene unfolds. In the land of dinosaurs, the kitchen table becomes a cave or the bookshelf a volcano ready to erupt at any minute. Maybe there are dinosaur nests, teeth or tails to talk about. Creative play gives children and parents a unique way to use new words and strengthen language skills.

There are so many strong reasons for giving children time to engage in pretend play. We hope you all have a playful and fantastic 2019!